Everybody needs a little help from their friends!

My husband and I recently got back from Jamaica, we went for a wedding and decided to make a vacation out of it spending 6 days and 5 nights. I have to admit it was a bit of forced fun, when his brother told us the wedding was a destination wedding in Jamaica, there was a bit of grumbling. Our first response was how are we going to do this? How can we manage the 3 kids schedules, school, military, PCS, my work, and money? I remember taking a breath, smiling and saying, "Wow, Jamaica, how fun!"

As we drove home, we were a little in shock. Even though I was unsure if we could pull it off, I did not want to interfere with their special day. I had to scold my husband, the pessimist, as he criticized his brother's decision, he immediately voiced all the reasons that we could not do it. And I said, "Who are we to tell them what they should do? How many times have we been criticized for your decision to be a soldier? Let's just support him and decide that we are going to do everything we can work out the rest. Besides I have always wanted to go to Jamaica, so do you, let's just focus on that and his special day and the rest will fall into place."

And with that attitude, it did. We had about nine months to plan, and everything worked out. The wedding was at a perfect time for his job and mine. My Mom offered to watch our children, and a team of friends chipped in to help with rides to practices, games, parties, babysit, and help my Mom. We went away worry free, and for the first time in 9 years we had time to relax and reconnect. I am tearing up just thinking of how blessed we are to have the greatest family on earth! (Military family and friends included!!!)

I learned a very important lesson, everybody needs a little help from friends and there is no shame in asking for it. While away, I could see that I have some of the greatest people and that I am truly blessed. For years, I tried to pretend I was superwoman and could do everything without help and I was so wrong! I need help like everyone else, I wish I would have swallowed my pride and accepted it more often. I really feel rejuvenated for the first time in almost 9 years, at peace. So if you can, take a little time for you. Find ways to ask for help when you need it, even if it is just to get a sitter for an afternoon nap!